Many parents forget that soccer is just a game. It is one thing to get emotionally involved with your child’s team; cheering until you lose your voice. However, when parents get so upset that they harass the referee, the players or the coach from the opposing team, the best thing to do is leave the field. Parents must remember to set a positive example for their child when on the soccer field, whether it be at a home game or an away game. 

When arriving at the playing field, make sure that everything and everybody is at least three (3) feet away from the touchline (i.e., sideline). This includes parents, lawn chairs, soccer balls, sport bottles, pets, siblings, friends and relatives. ONLY the coaches can be close to the field - and they must stay within ten (10) yards of the halfway line (or even with the center circle).  Parents acting as a "coach" (i.e., instructing players as opposed to rooting and cheering), must also stay within ten yards of the halfway line and always three feet from the touchline. NO spectators are allowed behind either goal line.

The referee (regardless of age) is the final authority on the field. Even if you feel the referee makes a bad call, the decision stands. Don’t hold up the game by trying to argue the call, even if it’s felt the referee is wrong. Talk to the coaching staff about any calls or decisions the referee makes. The coaches can speak with the referee either at half time or at the end of the game. The coaches can protest the game on grounds that the referee did not apply the rules correctly (but not on a judgment call). Arguing directly with the referee can only hurt the team and everyone involved in the game. Act rationally, even in the face of chaos. REMEMBER your behavior can result in the coach being issued a Red Card from the referee.

Remember to give positive encouragement, especially if the team is losing. Praise not only your child, but every child on the team. They are all winners.

Finally, for best results, parents should memorize and use the following:

Before the Match:

1. I love you!
2. Good luck!
3. Have fun!

After the Match:

1. I love you!
2. It was great to see you play!
3. Are you hungry? What would you like to eat?